So this was supposed to be published yesterday…and then my family randomly hijacked my days plans, but it was MUCH needed! Lets say 2016 burst onto the scene with some great fun & laughs, and a little bit of work getting done too! 😉
But today, we’re here – and we’re talking planning, goals, prayer and a whole lot of goodies!
I feel I should probably start this series off with a disclaimer, I’ve decided I’m going to blog through my vision casting & goal setting/planning process, but it’s certainly not traditional! I’ve already spent a good deal working on this in December and already learned so much things have changed. I set “goals” …but they rarely stick around in their original forms. I often talk about the “goal behind the goal” and that’s majorly what my personal process is about!
I’ve learned the hard way that we just don’t control that much, but yet, we still have personal power and we NEED to use it, or we wither as humans and often get super crabby! ha! It’s the truth y’all…I really like (sarcasm) to learn things the hard way! 😉
There is kind of a movement throughout the entrepreneurial sphere, you’re either SUPER into goal setting, strict, with it, 12 months, 1 month, 1 week, 90 days, 10 years, etc. I’ve been there. I *sorta* love it, but it just doesn’t really work for me well. Then…and I’ve noticed this SO much in the last year in the creative entre space…goals are SO 1999, get with program…maybe it’s about systems for that person, or habits, or intentions…etc.
And I get this, I totally totally get these “camps” I’ve been in both! Like many times (again…learning things the hard way! Pray for me! bahaha!)
I hate striving. I hate that feeling of being in survival mode. Like I can never ever measure up. Like a constant “I’ll be happy when…” and then realizing that no matter WHAT I achieve, there’s always more dreams, more things, etc. I HATE that…guys…the depression that has come with that over the years has nearly killed me. I type that with honest tears in my eyes because it’s true! (Side note: If you’re going through that right now, please email me or send me a message on Facebook, I would love to help you with that no strings attached!)
Granted, that wasn’t all because of goals, actually, it really had nothing to do with my Powersheets, or things written in my planner or journal or whatever. It has to do with a lot of unfinished business in my heart & brain, that I had to bring to God and even some professionals! But…it can still get sticky, even for people that don’t deal with the pre-existing types of “unworthiness” feelings and the like.
But the other side of things for me, was when I focused on habits and systems. And that was great actually, it worked pretty well, BUT, when I hit a road bump (aka sickness, major drama, traveling, etc) and those got a little out of wack (I’m a very bad creature of habit type of person, so when I’m out of my normal office/home routine…oh boy…ADD up the ying yang y’all! 😉 ha!)
So I’ve greatly, greatly, learned, that A. This entire thing has to be majorly customized, and B. You’ve gotta touch each area! Goals, visions, systems/habits, etc. Everyone has their own sort of “pie chart” in how it’ll all add up to 100 for you, but still, I believe we’ve each gotta hit each section within our own natural ways we’re wired! (More on this later in the series!)
SO…what to expect from this series – A. Like today, an overview of my process, and an honest recap of how I’m feeling and what’s going on! Gulp…guys I’m going to be super serious with this even though it makes me want to pee my pants! B. My visions, words, Bible verses I’m praying over my year, yearly visions (and that changes that happen as I go! Count on this…haha it’s just how I’m wired!) C. My more specific goals for the year, month, week, 90 days, etc. Whatever it ends up being (all of the above..and more probably! Oy vey with the poodles already! [name that show that quote is from!])
So love…how are you feeling about this past year? How are you feeling about 2016?!
Honestly, I’m feeling kinda good about 2015…which almost scares me…truly. Maybe it’s because I’ve laughed a zillion times this week and I’m in a super good mood, but this year was tough, but I still feel overall pretty positive about it. Kinda 60/40…which is a major change for me, and quite possibly a total miracle! Yup, I’ll go with that as my final answer! 😉 God is good y’all! No doubt, this year was tough! Our lovely kitten died in a horrible dog attack, I even had a nightmare about it at 7am new years morning…ugh! We also had to live in an apartment for ¾ of 2015 that was literally a giant meth lab and full of super sketchy people, we had the FBI & cops investigating the building (no joke…we lived by super crazy people! ah!) I couldn’t safely work from home by myself most of the time, so I had to work from E’s grad school office or coffee shops 99% of the time. It was rough, but for some reason, as I’m going through my 2016 process, I can just see the fruit, the foundation that it was creating for us, even though it was TOUGH at times!
Last year, my words were Rebuild + Cultivate. We usually pick a family word, and then I pick a word more so for business and myself. This year? Trust is our family word. My personal/business goal is THRIVE.
Trust is our family word because we need a whole lot of it! Ethan is done his grad program around May-ish (seriously…pray for that, thesis work is killer y’all!) And we’ll move moving, most likely, starting a new job, new money situations, new towns, hopefully new puppies, new cars, new house hopefully, etc. We have to do a lot of trusting God this year, and knowing that we can ask for things (John 14: 12-13) in His name, and we ARE in faith, but we also get to relax and know that God’s got this, even if it’s a little different than we asked for it’s going to be really good!
Thrive is more of my personal word because I need to learn how to thrive throughout everything. God dropped this into my lap very literally as I was taking my biz Advent/semi-sabbatical in December and majorly praying, reading, studying, etc. Proverbs was my home then, and it just hit me like a ton of bricks. Thrive. I need to learn how to thrive! No matter what the circumstances! Honestly?! The thought of that gives me goosebumps and a stomach ache at the same time, because it’s not going to be easy, but it’s going to be the.best.ever! And so damn necessary y’all! Learning this at 25 will do me veryyyy well in the rest of my 75 years here! 😉
Soon I will go over some more vision casting stuff, some semi-specific goals and a whole bunch more of my super messy process, but I hope it inspires you to DO YOU and make this whole thing your own! Do not give up, do not say “hell no” to goals entirely, and do not just blindly follow the goal setting advice of ANYONE! Truthfully. Do you darling, because you’re the best you that’ll ever be! (I think I’m quoting Dr Suess there…but not sure?! lol!)
Some of my FAV resources for making this process work for you:
- Lara Casey & her goal setting series
- Havilah’s Eat Pray Hustle Bible Study
- Tory Vore’s Bible in One Year plan & group (join us!)
So darling…how was 2015 for you? Get real & raw! What did you learn from it all? How are you feeling about 2016? What vision is God whispering to you to start dreaming about?
with love & blessings
Ps. And love, I’m serious about this. Little pep talk for a sec…DO NOT and I mean DO NOT do “SMART” goals! NOOOOO. No. No! There is something majorly wrong with that little tried & true goal setting formula if you’re a child of GOD! “realistic goals”…um NO! Again, read John 14:12-13 and digest it! Does that sound like a call for daughters of God to be “realistic”….nope! Absolutely not darling. Being realistic with things does matter at times, ie. new baby and thinking life is going to be one giant spa party or something! ha! BUT – it is also essential not to make these goals and visions for 2016 tiny, easy, or something that is totally do-able by you and your strength alone! That is NOT what we’re called to do darling, so please, please avoid that trap and lie from the scummy enemy! Be radical in your faith, even if you can’t quite feel it right now! (Remember Luke 17: 5&6!)