Honest question love – what games are you playing? What games are other people playing in & around your life that you’re allowing?
And don’t get me wrong, I’m saying this from a place of love, because I’m writing this for myself just as much as for you! I am majorly guilty of this at times! 😉
First: What do I mean by “games”?
I mean things like drama, being double-minded or inconsistent even though you know better and you can do better, but it’s like a weird comfy blanket. (Been there!) Things like complaining or comparison too, those totally count!
Maybe you’re biggest “game” right now is playing keeping up with the Jones’… maybe you don’t even recognize it, but your goals, your planner, your business structure…it’s all set up to see if you can have shinier things than your neighbor, or the other women in your mastermind group, bigger numbers, better car…etc. Instead of just running in YOUR lane!
Maybe the game you’re playing is procrastinating! (Enter raised hand/girl in pink shirt emoji…so guilty! ha!) This is totally a game because you’re letting worry & fear get to you. And God mentions his dislike of that just a few times in the Bible (sarcasm)! You’re letting those fears & worries take root in your mind instead of the promises God’s given us about our hope & future he’s written for us! It’s a game that keeps us stuck, but so often feels like a comfy, even if it’s kinda scratchy and smelly, blanket we keep around because we choose to see the future unknown in unwise ways. (More raised hand emojis…I’m tell you guys! haha!)
Maybe you’re letting others play games around you. This was totally the case in our house at one point this year. E (the hubs) was a stress case about grad school/teaching/moving/jobs/all the things…and he would totally let the smallest things become a huge drama fest! (Like it was actually funny at times because they were so small & not worth sweating over!) Finally I started calling him out on it! This is not exactly what God has in mind – he’s got plans for us, really good ones (Romans 8:28 + Jer. 29:11 for starters) and he’s said a zillion times not to fear or worry because He’s got this. So no, I’m not playing! Yes, we do have a crazy amount going on, but I’m just not playing the sweat the small stuff games. And it’s majorly helped our marriage have more peace, it’s helped my health tremendously! But I had to put the boundaries in place and it took a few weeks and it wasn’t always pretty! But so worth it!
So love, what games are you playing, or letting others play around you, that are like that stinky old blanket you just can’t get rid of?! It provides some comfort yes, but it’s a gross old blanket! Let’s call it out and get rid of it to make room for more beautiful things, shall we?! Lets! 😉
I’m right here with you, truly! As always, email me if you have any questions or comments about this topic or anything business/faith related. I’m all ears!